My mother (who does not know I am writing a blog) told me today that she wanted to tell me that she hopes I'm not getting discouraged with this process. She is sending me a blanket a friend of hers made her to give to me. I think when she initially told me about the blanket and asked how she should get it to me I told her that she coud mail it and it could sit around her or she could bring it whenever she visits. So I guess that was her clue that I'm getting discouraged.
Last week I finally e-mailed the agency (who still has not hired a replacement social worker) to ask if we should change our book or if there was something on our check list that was too picky. I also mentioned that I felt that Kate (the last social worker) knew what we were willing to bend on depending on the situation. The woman that is currently in charge of placements was Kates boss, has never met us and we are just a check list to her. She suggested a meeting.
I think I blogged about this particular social worker in April of 2010 when we first started the process. She was unwilling to take DH's schedule into consideration (which rotates) and was unable to meet late in the day (3-5) to accommodate my schedule. So as I guessed if we want an appt that works for us we would have to wait until late November. So we scheduled one for next week at 1. DH is going to leave work early and I am going to phone in (she doesn't know this yet). Back when we first tried to meet with her we scheduled three appointments all of which she canceled or incorrectly scheduled. So I'm trying to be positive and hope that she is really there that day because I'm going to be very annoyed if DH takes an afternoon off work only to find out that its canceled.
I loved Kate our last social worker. I love the counseling they provide the birthfamilies pre and post placement. I love the support groups (we used to have). I do not care of this particular social worker. I guess I feel a little snobby but I'm paying the agency to take care of my birthfamily as well as me. Right now we dont feel very taken care of.
So I am discouraged that we dont have a placement yet however at this point I'm more discouraged by our agency telling us each month that by the end of that month they will have someone hired. I think they are telling us this because they dont realize that Kate helped us set up an e-mail list in which the waiting families have been communicating. So once a month someone always asks and once a month we get the same response. Really at this point I want a good social worker more then a baby because I know one leads to the other.
I did briefly look into other agencies but where we live this is the only option. I dont want to be stuck in another state spending my babies first month in a hotel room waiting for us to be allowed to leave the state. I also would like the option of a local placement to allow for more openness. So next week Wednesday we better hear some good news.