As I finished packing up the gift which also included the response to her birth sister, a note to her birth grandmother with a wallet sized picture of the three children together, plus a note for her bmom with the same wallet sized picture I though.... when is Bmoms birthday? I did not intend on sending a gift but I had intended on acknowledging it some how since I sent both of her children photos on their birthdays. Well it passed. Two months ago.
I added it to my calendar so next year I wont forget to make one of her letters coincide with her birthday. Next year I'll remember. I'm not perfect. I'm just doing my best.